How many are single, married or in a relationship here ?

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Originally Posted by Kamahl

Oh man... ugh... wow that's just... Damn.

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Yeah, and to top it off...she waits till after dinner, movie and shopping trip at the mall to tell me....in the car...on the way home...

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Originally Posted by tz101

By the way, congrats on such a beautiful wife.

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Thanks man.

Wow.. I'm honestly impressed with how strong some of you guys here are, you experienced so much shit yet you managed
to make it out without losing your mind. I don't think I could have been that strong myself in a case like that.
Especially when they cheat, oh man I'm all about honesty so a betrayal like that would have wrecked me.

Much respect!

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Originally Posted by BoostedGR33K

Was engaged to 1st fiancee for about 9 months, and she was prego with my kid. Shortly after that, she meets this guy Eddie whos tall n super sweet n blah blah blah whatever. She leaves me for him, and once he found out about the bun in the oven, he flipped his lid. Long story short - talked her into an abortion, mind raped her for 3 years, then left her for her best friend (who is now happily married to her.) To think Id have a 7 year old right now....life sure wouldve been different....

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Aren't you supposed to have a say if some disgraceful bastard who's not the father demands an abortion? To me, that's like calling in a hit to murder your kid. My condolences.

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Shortly after her I met Fiancee #2. We were together 3 years - I purposed to her after year #2. Everything was great - we lived together, I took care of all the finance shtuff n she handled the fun shtuff. We had just about everything in common - even our love for Sega. She started 'partying with her friends' the last 3 monthes of our relationship, and I didnt think anything of it. She rarely went out with her friends so I was happy and supportive of her. On the night of our 3 year anniversary, she spilled the beans about seein her co-worker steve that whole time - and how they were blissfully doing it in my fucking bed in my place... (sorry TZ101 I will ALWAYS bear resentment twards her for wronging me.) Anyhoo, long story short, I figure....twice in one century is enough for me.... I may date here n there, but thats it.... idk if I can fall for that again...

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If a woman is this careless, heartless, slutty, and disrespectful instead of being loyal and trustworthy, then she should be dumped without a second thought. Adding to that, she brought another man into your home and bed, which you paid money for.

I would've done a number of things: demand that she and the fling buy you a new bed and whatever else they soiled, tell her parents that she admitted to being dishonest and did adulterous acts in your home and bed, and swiftly proceed to move all of her stuff out immediately while ensuring she does most of the work. Force her out ASAP. No conversations, no questions, no begging for forgiveness. One strike, you're fucking OUT!

These events in your past relationships are not considered normal. I wouldn't give up yet. Just aim for higher quality women.

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Originally Posted by TurboRotary

I'd probably worship a tree or something.

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I do.

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Originally Posted by TurboRotary

Everyone has a limit. I think the key finding and having a good relationship is the practice perspective and to be realistic. Most people are not going to be compatible with you. That's just how it is. Just like everything in life (at least in mine) the good things come the hardest... You've only sampled a small fraction of what is available... Another thing I will say.. Look for the warning signs early on. How does she treat other people? How does she treat her parents? Is she prone to be stressed easily? Common sense stuff. One that new love phase wears off you will get that same treatment, so beware. If other things rub you wrong at the outset of the relationship then they will probably only annoy you more down the road. Of course no relationship is perfect and it takes a lot of work on both sides.. My wife and I have been together for 12 years so I know. The risk of failing, hurting, losing, etc is worth the reward when you find the right person. Keep your eyes on the prize man!!!

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Completely agree with Turbo here.

If I was good at anything it was recognizing when I should jump ship. The way I looked at it, I didn't see much point in extending a relationship if it had too many red flags within the first few months. I figured that if I find it annoying now, I'm going to hate it in a year - a year that can be left open to let someone else in that could be much more ideal.

I don't think there's anything wrong with opening yourself up to opportunities when it comes to women, however, I'm also of the opinion that it really doesn't take too long to know what you've got on your hands, and whether or not it's worth really investing your time in. I also think it's much more beneficial to be single rather than walk on eggshells for someone that doesn't appreciate the effort.

I often joke that no one is bi-polar....until you start dating them.

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Originally Posted by Splatterhouse5

I don't think there's anything wrong with opening yourself up to opportunities when it comes to women, however, I'm also of the opinion that it really doesn't take too long to know what you've got on your hands, and whether or not it's worth really investing your time in. I also think it's much more beneficial to be single rather than walk on eggshells for someone that doesn't appreciate the effort.

I often joke that no one is bi-polar....until you start dating them.

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:p

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they think with their hormones,
where their hormones tell them (in feeling) that an asshole guy is better because the asshole gene makes them more likely to create offspring.

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Which is why their "lives", and the world, is shit.

This thread is depressing me, christ.

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??? for both the last posts. There are plenty of great stories here too. Like life, it's balanced. But I'll stop talking about my shit then if it's depressing people.

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Originally Posted by Vector

??? for both the last posts. There are plenty of great stories here too. Like life, it's balanced. But I'll stop talking about my shit then if it's depressing people.

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Nah man, sharing eases the pain.

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Originally Posted by Vector

??? for both the last posts. There are plenty of great stories here too. Like life, it's balanced. But I'll stop talking about my shit then if it's depressing people.

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Nah it's cool. :)
I guess it's a type of gathering for lonely hearts.

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Originally Posted by Thierry Henry

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I'm not sad, but understand those who are. BoostedGr33k had some pretty bad stuff happen for sure. Just unfortunate that he got hooked up with those women. NeoVamp got treated badly in Canada. I feel sorry that happened, especially after he traveled that far and all. Life can deal some bad blows, but we each have a choice of staying there or rising up. Please don't take this as a speech that I have arrived or anything like that, because that has not been my intent ion the slightest. My heart goes out to those who have been done wrong.

Love and friendships are so strange, you'd think it would be simpler.

That's how I always approached it, which apparently is the completely wrong way to approach these things.
You spend time with the girl, you share life experiences, you explain to each other how you see things.. you
get to know each other, you carefully show the other that you enjoy his/her presence. and then when you're
both sure you make it official by proclaiming your love to each other.

All this chaotic stuff, I'm just not good at it.

I would totally get a robot girl if they made them.