Just been broken up with

[mrbigreddog]

He misses the twins.

That's effin funny!

[retrospiel]

I'd definitely keep my head up and try to look on what's ahead. It's easy to get lost in thoughts about what was and could have been, but it's just not worth it.

If I could go back and change the past I'd try to focus on the the things I had and the people around me, and not wasting my time and energy trying to get back into a partnership that neither of us were 100% happy with.

[snume]

I always seemed to end up in long distance relationships, mainly because the girls in my very small hometown were friends and nothing ever really blossomed there. They never lasted too long because fresh love seems to need familiarity and too much time between visits can allow too many issues into the equation.

Some people would rather move on than work at it and will change to a more 'convenient' relationship with someone who is more available. You shouldn't take it too personally, at least they liked you enough to spend as much time working on the relationship with you as they did. They probably felt very bad and tried hard to make it work. It never feels good to be 'surprised' with the breakup thing though.

Eventually you'll find the right one. I did. And it took quite a few tries. It started out as a long distance relationship (about 1.5 hours apart) and soon enough we both knew it was worth it and around the 1.5 year mark we both moved to a place in between but equal in distance from our previous homes so we could be together and still travel a manageable distance to work. Had our 10th anniversary this year and have 2 beautiful little girls.

At one time, actually many times, I felt the sting as you have but it's out there for you. Just keep looking.

[Leathco]

My friend, what YOU need is a sign!



Just don't wear it on your butt like the guy pictured. Some other guy might get the wrong idea....

[Mr Smith]

Long distance relationships never work. I'm not sure if that's solace, but, meh.

[beef jerky man]

Advice? Get a bottle of lotion and a box of tissue.

[snume]

Actually, KY and a little bit of water to make it extra slippery. Nuff said.

[Rusty Venture]

Yeah. They = he.

You could have just said that from the get go. I'm sure there are more than a few people on here that would back you up if someone gave you shit.

But I admit I am a bit disappointed. The gender neutral-ness of English and the use of "they" lead me to believe you were banging two chicks at the same time.

[Metal_Sonic]

You could have just said that from the get go. I'm sure there are more than a few people on here that would back you up if someone gave you shit.

He didn't "give him shit", he pushed it in.

So who was pitching and who was catching?

Do you guys actually bite the pillow?

Can you give us the rainbow and certain mustaches back?

Why do you guys "eat da poo poo"?

And on a final note:

Three friends -- two straight guys and a gay guy -- and their significant others were on a cruise. A tidal wave came up and swamped the ship; they all drowned, and next thing you know, they're standing before St. Peter.

First came one of the straight guys and his wife. St. Peter shook his head sadly. "I can't let you in. You loved money too much. You loved it so much, you even married a woman named Penny."

Then came the second straight guy and his approached. "Sorry, can't let you in, either. You loved food too much. You loved to eat so much, you even married a woman named Candy!"

The gay guy turned to his boyfriend and whispered nervously, "It doesn't look good, Dick."

[beef jerky man]

And on a final note:

Three friends -- two straight guys and a gay guy -- and their significant others were on a cruise. A tidal wave came up and swamped the ship; they all drowned, and next thing you know, they're standing before St. Peter.

First came one of the straight guys and his wife. St. Peter shook his head sadly. "I can't let you in. You loved money too much. You loved it so much, you even married a woman named Penny."

Then came the second straight guy and his approached. "Sorry, can't let you in, either. You loved food too much. You loved to eat so much, you even married a woman named Candy!"

The gay guy turned to his boyfriend and whispered nervously, "It doesn't look good, Dick."

[David J.]

Bitches they come, they go...

Been there done that. Good story that is a good laugh. Got a new GF and it seemed like it would never happen - getting in another relationship but it did and she is 10000000x better, but the parents don't like her, yet they liked my ex and she was more fucked in the head.

[Waterfaller]

Again, thanks to everyone who gave some input... er, helpful or otherwise lol

[tomaitheous]

Long distance relationships never work. I think if you add that on top of a male/male relationship (no pun intended), and it's probably impossible. I've rarely seen even normal gay relationships last very long. It's just a common male thing, I guess.

My advice, write some sexually bold/explicit/graphic but sad/loss/tragic poetry, read it at an open mic night at some bohemian cafe (preferably college area scene). It you play guitar, even better. And then take home some ass for the night, from said event. It won't solve/resolve anything, but at least you'll have a bit of fun.

[Gogogadget]

Just look for things to wake up and dedicate time too, it'll be off your mind in no time.

[InternalPrimate]

yeah, i feel for you man, iam beginning to believe most women if not all are just cunts who are out for themselves and whatever is convenient or beneficial for them, i still have hopes for a reasonable one someday, but since the one i liked left in march, ive just been watching porn, and playing sega to tide me over till the one comes. anyways hope ya feel better.

WOW.

To the original poster:

Ending any relationship is really difficult for both parties, so I'm guessing he's going through a hard time as well. Just remember that when times get difficult. Regardless of whether or not he's not in love with you anymore doesn't mean he doesn't care for you. In the end, this will only be remembered as a good thing, because it allowed for the right thing to come along.

As for how to not feel depressed, I've said it before and I'll say it again: work out and surround yourself with loved ones. Exercising releases all kinds of good stuff into your brain, and it'll not only make you feel good, but it'll make you feel good about yourself. Pass on anti-depressants, working out works just as well, and the lasting benefits are fantastic.

I've always fallen back on my friends during a break-up. They're good people (obviously, I chose them), and they know how to cheer me up. It's as simple as that. When I'm around them, I have a good time and I forget about my other troubles. The great thing about true friends is that they'll always be around, unlike girl or boyfriends.

Also, I know it's hard to hear this so close to the breakup, but things will get a lot better with time. Someone posted earlier that it usually takes about half the time of the relationship to get over someone, and I mostly agree. But it's not as bad as it sounds. Here's a couple quick tips:

1) Stop talking to him. This is by far the most difficult to do. Remove him from your life. Eventually you'll be able to contact him without being hurt, but it's going to take a while. The longer you go without experiencing that hurt, that longing, the easier it gets. If you choose to not do this, and keep him in your life, it's like starting over each time you talk to him.

2) Don't rush into anything else. You might think having someone else want you will help, but it usually just leads to settling. Rebounds almost never work out. Your friends are there to make you feel better, you don't need to introduce something artificial into your life to achieve that.

Just my two cents. We all go through it. I hope you'll be ok